The night God saved my marriage

The night God saved my marriage

That night, after we climbed into bed, repelling each other like the negative ends of two magnets, I asked Cindy, “Would you marry me again?” Before her heart could beat she said, “No way!” “Would you marry me again?” she asked. “Not a chance,” I said. We had reached the proverbial bottom of the barrel […]

How to lower your stress.

How to lower your stress.

You wouldn’t think something as insignificant as a gear-shift indicator could spell disaster for a car. But it did. I used to own a sporty car that worked great except for the gear-shift indicator. When the indicator was on D the car was in second gear instead of drive. One day I loaned it to […]

A Problem We Minimize

A Problem We Minimize

Marriage not only brought me face to face with the girl of my dreams, it brought me face to face with my own selfishness. Sure, I knew I was self-centered. But prior to marriage I found ways to minimize the seriousness of my problem. I could blame someone else for making me mad or getting […]

My Sewer Line Broke

My Sewer Line Broke

Early in our marriage Cindy and I identified the “I don’t want to feeling.” It’s what we felt when the selfishness monster pleaded with us to disregard the other person. Of course, recognizing the presence of the creature doesn’t mean he’ll graciously leave, especially in areas where he’s established control. But he can be bridled, led to a cage, and deprived of the freedom to roam around our hearts destroying our marriage. Here’s how.